‘Touch me without using your hands’
Sometimes meeting up with someone for a first-time encounter can be pretty awkward. It can lead to loss of desire or take a pretty long time after that to get aroused. Phone sex, on the other hand, can be an amazingly exciting and pleasurable experience for each party. It works so well, too, if you are in a long-distance relationship and desperately need some intimacy from a partner. Just a couple of sex toys for women around to stimulate you further, a voice at the other end of the phone talking dirty to you; is really all it takes to take your fantasies to the next level of thrills. It can all leave you feeling helpless with pleasure. Have you ever fantasized about doing this and yet not sure how you get started? Check out these helpful tips!
Get ready for your dirty talk
You need to choose the right time to talk dirty on your phone date [1]. Both you and your partner need to be alone, ready and positioned in the right place to take what is to come. For instance, you don’t want to phone your guy and he tells you he is having dinner with his mom for instance! This date needs to be planned in advance when you are both fee and alone and in your rooms!
The right mood, the right atmosphere when you look and feel sexy
It’s true that you look how you feel. So even if your partner can’t see you while you are engaging in dirty talk on the phone, look the picture of sexiness. That will only enhance you being turned on and ready for action. Sitting around in old baggy sweat pants and a massive T-shirt might not set the tone for some sexy dirty talking. You could even dim the lights and light some candles with a lovely fresh clean bed to lie on.
Don’t get all serious and overthink the situation through too much
Don’t analyze how you think the phone sex will go too much, like studying yourself in the mirror and analyzing how you will get turned on. Rather try and keep it as if it’s a surprise call and you are naturally in the mood and lying on your bed ready for what is to come – as natural as possible.
Getting turned on
The main gist here is to be mentally prepared for what is to come. For instance, close your eyes and dream of the fantasies you love most of a sexual nature or think of the time when the two of you were together in the flesh and you did get hot and steamy. This will prepare you for that tantalizing phone call that will come later.
Start talking dirty when the time comes
Have you got your “dirty talk” voice ready? [2] Remember, it needs to still sound like you, just a lot sexier; kind of slower talking. For instance, don’t talk to your lover in the same kind of voice that you would ask him how his sporting event went. Just a weeny bit slower and a weeny bit lower in tone.
Give your honey-boy a couple of compliments too
It’s not necessary to bring in all the X-rated stuff here the minute you are on the phone. You can start with a few basic compliments, like how you’ve missed this, how amazing their body was as you remember it. You can remind them of the last time you two had sex and how hot and steamy it was; all this will get you and him in the mood to keep talking in that vein. Are you battling to know how you could start? Here are a few examples for instance – “I’ve been thinking about your toned arms all day,” “I love hearing your voice,” or “I miss you and your body so much.”
Then you could tell him what you are wearing. Describe how you are lying on the bed right now and what you are wearing – how your body looks, the parts that are exposed. Ask him too, what he is wearing and close your eyes and imagine them in those clothes. Here are a couple more ideas –
“I’m wearing your favorite bra.”
“I’m not wearing any underwear.”
“My shirt is tight around my biceps.”
Tell him what you would do if he was there with you.
Start off nice and slow, saying just a few things you wish would happen if he was there. Get as graphic as you like, starting with the basics and building up to the more excitable, breathless types of dirty talk fantasies.
Now you can move on to the hot and heavy stuff
Now is the time you can start touching yourself and describing what you are doing to him and how it feels. Let your lover know what you are doing and tell him to touch his body. Get into details about what you want to them do, like real foreplay. Describe all the hot sensations you are feeling to your lover. Tell him how you want him to also touch you, getting hot, steamy and graphical. Let them know all the excitement you feel over your body. This is now the time to pull out all the stops and let your fantasies do the talking. Take off your clothes and tell him you are doing do. If your guy or lady is really getting turned on, they can start taking their clothes off too, and telling you about it. By this time you will both be masturbating, and touching yourselves until you feel you are going to explode with coming. Tell your partner about this; he will be turned on even more.
Once you have both experienced orgasms you can then end and say your goodbyes
If your dirty phone sex session was hugely successful, you could then chat later with each, when the heat is off and set up your next dirty talk date!
The takeaway
Feeling good now? That’s one of the benefits of phone sex, the simple connection and intimacy from someone who isn’t even near you. When it’s happening and even when it’s all over, it feels as if the partner was right there! Remember, though, you need never feel obligated to get your partner off if you’re not in the mood. But with more practice and fun, you will grow more comfortable with doing it, because “having a dirty mind makes ordinary conversations much more interesting!”
