July 15, 2024

‘Roses are red, Violets are blue, I only do anal, I thought you knew’

Most of us have got a friend of a friend, right, that has tried anal sex. They either brag about it or talk of disastrous outcomes. Lots of people love the thought of trying the unknown; they want to try it out and see how much fun it is. Because they’ve heard it can be highly pleasurable. If you have a clumsy partner, it can be kinda painful.

Did you know that the anus is full of nerve endings? You could say it is truly one of the most sensitive parts of the body. So that means it has a lot of potential to endure both pain and pleasure.

If you’re a beginner at anal sex we have 10 tips that will let you feel like a pro

It is going to require time, patience, and a lot of lubrication. You also have the right to immediately stop it should it be required.

  1. Just know, it can hurt

A study that was published in the British Medical Journal discovered that women did find anal sex to be really painful, but that they go on with it because of persuasive partners [1]. Also if you are into porno movies, then anal sex is quite the norm and so many guys dream of doing this with their partners. But a woman shouldn’t indulge in anal sex if her heart isn’t in it.

2. You will need lubrication

This is actually a no-brainer. Women will know that when they are sexually aroused, their vagina gets wet, ready to receive the penis. But with the anus, it is not capable of providing any lubrication. So really to make for a smoother penetration, make sure you use plenty of lubricant.

3. Bacterial infections aren’t off-limits

Lubrication is vital for anal sex. Without it, you risk the chance of tearing during penetration. The resulting wound could become exposed to bacteria when you pass a stool. Naturally, the stool contains bacteria and this can result in skin infections and seriously painful abscesses. All this might require a visit to the doc to get treatment [2].

4. Yes, anal sex can make you experience an orgasm

If you are wondering if anal sex could possibly be not as exciting and pleasurable as vaginal sex, you are wrong. One sex survey from The Journal of Sexual Medicine revealed that women who did indulge in anal sex reported higher rates of orgasm compared to women who had vaginal sex [3].

5. Don’t do vaginal sex after anal sex

You need to know that there might be stool in your rectum which can contain bacteria. This can attach itself to the penis and then if you follow up with vaginal sex, you can really be badly affected with bacteria and even other diseases.

6. Anal sex could lead to incontinence
There’s a study that was done on this top and it was published in The American Journal of Gastroenterology. It reported that women who regularly indulged in anal sex reported high rates of a high rate of fecal incontinence in their later life [4]. They battled to control their bowel movements, in other words, and this caused stool or feces to unexpectedly leak from the rectum.

7. It’s essential your guy wears a condom, otherwise you can expect to pick up STIs

At least, ladies, you don’t get pregnant through anal sex.  But one thing you can get is a sexually transmitted infection (STI) when indulging in anal sex. In fact, STIs are thought to be the highest way of picking up an STI according to the UK’s National Health Service website. There’s a reason for this: Because the lining of the anus is relatively thin, it is more vulnerable to catching infections. It’s a must to use a condom for indulging in anal sex [5].

8. What position should you be in to receive anal sex?

Doggy style: This style requires you to be on all fours. The man will come up behind you to put their penis into your anus. You might find it a bit difficult to get into a comfortable position. This is the most common anal sex position because it allows the partner doing the penetration to have easy access. You will have the ability to raise or lower your butt.  Another Other position that works well for anus sex is the reverse missionary position.

9. A couple of medical issues to realize

Having anal sex isn’t usually linked to new hemorrhoid formation. But the pushing and stretching entailed can cause some internal or external flare-ups. Symptoms could also worsen such as swelling, discomfort, and itching.

Even though it is rare, it’s just a precaution. Anal penetration could puncture your colon potentially, and that could require surgery. Consult with your doctor immediately if you do notice you have a lot of rectal bleeding and abdominal pain after participating in anal sex.

10. Do it slowly at first

A good time to try out anal sex is when you have already climaxed. Then your body will be all relaxed as it is. It will be more receptive to the type of stimulation that anal sex affords. Think about taking a shower together and allowing your partner to gently massage the anal area with soapy fingers.

Be relaxed for anal sex

A sex and pleasure educator, Luna Matatas says, “You can like anal sex and only enjoy fingers, tongues, or toys — anal sex does not have to involve thrusting or penetration. Just remember, when you are exploring anal play, you will want to be as relaxed as possible.” Do whatever works for you to get yourself feeling fantastic.


Trying a new thing between the sheets is exciting and stimulating; for you, it might mean that your relationship is on a good wicket. But still, you might not really know how it’s going to all turn out. And when it comes to anal sex it might make you just a wee bit nervous – you might never have tried it and don’t know what to expect. That’s why we’ve given you some very helpful tips to prep yourself for it.

The most important thing about anal sex and all other sexual acts is to be excited about experiencing them. Don’t do them because your partner wants to and you think you should. Because the sexiest thing you can give a partner is your enthusiastic consent. Enjoy!